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Adults tend to bully with words

ďWhen a toxic person can no longer control you, they will try to control how others see you. The misinformation will feel unfair, but stay above it, trusting the other people will eventually see the truth, just like you did.Ē

Iím not sure who wrote that, but I read it a few months ago and thought it was such a powerful piece of advice. Iíve come to realize in the past several years that it isnít just kids that have to deal with bullies, but adults as well. Just like the quote says, when toxic people realize that you arenít always going to agree with everything they have to say and they canít control you anymore, they will resort to bullying tactics. Instead of using physical force to bully like most children do, adults tend to bully with their words, not just negative words to your face, but mainly negative words behind your back to try to run you down to make themselves look better and turn people against you.

Dealing with a toxic person is not easy, but thankfully God has given us a Psalm that coincides with that quote to help us see how to deal with a bullying situation and to come out victorious.

Psalm 37:1-8 reads, Do not fret because of evildoers, nor be envious of the workers of iniquity. For they shall soon be cut down like the grass, and wither as the green herb. Trust in the Lord, and do good; dwell in the land, and feed on his faithfulness. Delight yourself also in the Lord, and he shall give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord, trust also in him, and he shall bring it to pass, he shall bring forth your righteousness as the light, and the justice as the noonday. Rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for him; do not fret because of him who prospers in his way, because of the man who brings wicked schemes to pass, cease from anger, and forsake wrath; do not fret ó it only causes harm.Ē

The first thing we need to do is not fret or worry. I believe this is the most important thing because it is mentioned three times in these verses, and it is the first thing we usually do in a situation like this. We worry about what people think and how we are going to try to clear our name and get the truth to come out, but that is exactly what we arenít to do because as the Psalm says, it doesnít help but only causes harm.

So how can we not worry in a situation like this? It leads to our next step, which is to trust God. Trust him to be your defense. Keep doing the good that you were doing and donít allow the toxic person to bring you down to their level of scheming and devising evil plans to get revenge. I love how the next verse says to dwell in the land and feed on his faithfulness. God is never going to let you down no matter how the situation may look. Feed on his faithfulness to you and not the unfaithfulness of others toward you.

Feed on his love and his Word, which promises that he will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5), and if God is for you, who can be against you (Romans 8:31)? We have a much more powerful force on our side than what we can imagine, and we should rest and trust in him.

Instead of focusing on the wrongdoing against you, delight yourself in the Lord. The more we can focus on the Lord and delight in his love for us, the more we will be filled with his perfect peace (Isaiah 26:3). He will put his desires in our hearts, and instead of wanting to get revenge on the person, we will be compelled to pray for them and love them instead.

Continue to commit your way to the Lord and know he will bring this to pass because he is our vindicator, but note this: It may not happen immediately. The word says to rest in the Lord and wait patiently for him. It may not look like anything is going on and that the toxic person is prospering in their endeavor to destroy your reputation, but we are promised that he will bring forth our righteousness as the light and our justice as the noonday. The key is to wait on the Lord to do it for us and not us to try to do it ourselves. He is our defense, so letís cease from worrying and start trusting in our heavenly Father, who loves us more than we will ever know.

Amber can be reached at amberdeemiller32@gmail.com, www.ambermiller.tateauthor.com or through her AmberRiceMiller Facebook page.

Published: August 26, 2016
New Article ID: 2016708269977